TED Talks: Rethinking Infidelity with Esther Perel

The vast majority of people consider the infidelity the most serious sin that is committed within a relationship. But does it have to be interpreted that way? at ttherapist and writer Esther Perel talks about infidelity: what it is, why even happy people do it, and how couples can bounce back. It aims to locate these personal experiences within a larger cultural context. "Anything I can do that includes ambiguity in the complicated lives we lead will feel like I'm doing some good in the world.“, Says Perel.

With an empathic and provocative approach, the therapist identifies infidelity as a threat to our emotional security, which is why it is always such a traumatic subject. She also sees infidelity as a relationship of longing and loss. "Not all infidelity is a symptom of a relationship problem. Sometimes this has to do with other yearnings that are much more existential. Sometimes a person looks for other companies not because they don't like their partner; don't like the person you've become“He said.

These and other interesting and controversial interpretations can be checked in his TED talk "Rethinking infidelity… a talk for anyone who has ever loved"(rethinking infidelity… a lecture for those who have already loved). Perel addresses issues such as: nnavigating between the comfort of stable relationships and the thrilling uncertainty of sexual attraction and the paradox of wanting both adventure and security in relationships. The theme is the subject of her next book, which will be published by HarperCollins at a date yet to be determined. 

Esther Perel

Couples therapist and author Esther Perel talks about sexuality focused on the psychology behind sex,  Since 2006 when Perel published the best-selling book Sexo no Captivairo (Objetiva Editor), she has become the authority speaker on sexuality and relationships in the world of couples therapy.

The work of the psychotherapist does not stop gaining followers around the world. The most enthusiastic say that she is changing the debate about what it means to be in love and have a satisfying sex life. Your TED talk in 2013, "The Secret of Desire in a Lasting Relationship“, had 1 million hits in the first 2 weeks it was published.